The Perfect Breakup? [Stepcase Lifehack]
"It'll never happen – we'll be together forever." Sure you will. And how old are you? Sixteen? Everybody's gotta deal with breakups in their life. I'm a man in love myself, but I know that in the past, the objects of my affection have certainly changed their minds. It's a part of growing up and learning about relationships. Stepcase Lifehack put together a list of tips on handling a breakup, regardless of what side you are on. Here's what you should remember when breaking up with somebody:
- Know why. Before you act, do a little self-reflection. It’s easy to say “It’s not you, it’s me” but a lot harder to mean it if you don’t know what about you “it” is. You don’t have to tell your soon-to-be-ex everything, but you should at least understand for yourself.
- Be honest. While you don’t have to unleash a torrent of insults on the person you’re breaking up with, at least be clear about the main reasons things aren’t working for you. And don’t lie about remaining friends if you have no interest in this person as a friend. It just drags out the inevitable.
- Don’t drag it out. It can be scary to tell someone you’re not interested in seeing them any more. So scary, in fact, that you don’t – you just act colder and colder, find excuses not to see them, start picking at their weaknesses, putting them through the wringer while you build up the courage to do what you need to do. You’ll both be happier if you make a clean break sooner rather than later.
- Be gentle but firm. There’s no reason to be hurtful, no matter how bad things are going. But do be clear that this is not an ultimatum, an invitation to improvement, or just another argument – this is The End.
They've also got tips on being the one broken up with, and handling the future of the relationship, if there is one. It's a great read, and something I wish I would have had years ago. Check it out!
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